According to most researchers, genetics plays a major role when it comes to sexual orientation. Although the environment and experiences may also affect one's choice and preference, it is rarely the case that a person should suddenly become or turn gay overnight. In those instances, it may be that the person already had genetic predisposition, but decided to ignore or reject those tendencies.
The dilemma concerning sexual orientation and religion may run something like this: Should the person give in to his sexual urges or should he fight against them? If, as some religious groups claim, it is against nature and hence against God's will, then why are they created in this manner in the first place by God Himself? Does God like to make people suffer? Or is God testing the faith of homosexual people by giving them extra challenges?
The first one is out of the question because it is in direct violation to the definition of God's attributes. The second question deals with temptation, but why would gays be singled out? Why make it more difficult for them and why deny them to obey and follow their natural inclination? It is in fact the Catch 22 of homosexual love: From the person's view it is a natural choice, whereas from society's view it is supposedly an act of “perversion against nature.” Either way, the homosexual is doomed.
Now what about overcoming the homosexual impulses and become, more or less, straight? This proposition is fraught with many difficulties. What good would it be if the homosexual person establishes a family based on lies, make believe and pretense? Who is ultimately benefiting from this charade? The wife will not have a husband, and the homosexual man will not be happy with his lifestyle, while their children, should there be any, will be confused by the behavior of both of their parents.
Nobody would win in that situation so that it seems to be out of question as well unless you believe that homosexuality is a “disease” that can be “cured.” But if you are calling one's sexual orientation, which we have agreed upon as genetically programmed, then one's skin color could also fall in this ominous category of “diseases.” And that is just equally absurd.
By eliminating all of those options, we are left with only one possible answer, namely that God accepts and loves each and everyone unconditionally, regardless of color and sexual orientation. Jesus accepted the poor and the crippled and the prostitutes. Would Jesus not have accepted gays as well? What makes them inherently different from the rest of us? Why should they in any way feel ashamed for the way nature has created them?